Dating In The Modern World

 

The pandemic put a hault on most things, seeing friends and family, going shopping, even going to work but the hardest thing for myself was a world without dating face to face. Meeting people for a drink turned quickly to swiping across apps and arranging zoom call dates. I thought I was already adapted to a pretty big digital world but nothing braced me for the world of digital dating quite like being thrown in to it. Adapting to the challenge as a 30 something old woman, I decided to take the challenge head on but try help and inspire you to take the leap in to the world of dating. 

Using a site like the Suffolk Dating  set your location ( for example for anyone in Suffolk Dating head straight here for that location to search singles in that area), update my preferences. First things first add some cute photos of you traveling, at a festival with friends, with the family pets, in your fave outfit........ you know the happy and positive ones that show you in your best light. Armed with a essay bio listing out all your passions, what you like in someone, the messages should soon come rolling in. 

With some normality hitting us you may find people more comfortable to meet, But after a few messages you may find it easier and safer to jump on a video call or a zoom chat just to see a person and their mannerisms. There's just some so easy to sitting at home to meet someone and in the comfort of your own home the worry of getting dressed up is simple, party up the top, and pjs at the bottom to sit in comfort and relax. The bill is always split too so no awkward end of date back and forth who was paying, and the drinks and food probably won't be half bad either if you decide to cook, or get a cheeky take away.

To make it more fun I've listed a few things which I think are perfect to connect and find out about one another.


Quiz night

The funniest date idea I had was quiz night – Taking in turns to ask general knowledge questions to find out out clued up your date was on the wider world. If like me you watch far too much tv and your heads in the celeb gossip type websites you’re sure to maybe not perform too well, but again it opens up the conversation and eases you both in.

This or that:

Before meeting virtually I'd try make sure we had something to speak about. Much like in normal circumstances I found this or that questions to be a real quick fire round of questions to find out more about the other person. It's a great and easy way to bounce off one another and trickle down to other conversations about their likes or dislikes.

Themed dates

I then started getting really creative trying to arrange themes. It normally came down to the food of choice, for example indian you'd get indian food whether super market bought/cooked/ or take out, This was another conversation opener on the lack of or not lack of creativity in your dates chosen dishes or what your must haves are and what you'd be willing to share or not in a real date in person.


Now the world has began to open a little, there’s still no reason to not maybe take the first step digitally though. With apps becoming the norm, I did and still do miss the connection with someone in person. But seeing someone in their natural world digitally was the next best thing and really opened my mind up to dating in digital world. And Who’s not to say prince charming may be coming to a screen near you soon.


But if you want to take that first step out there's plenty of things to do in Suffolk . 

I'm terrible for letting the guy choose, but if you're feeling the vibes I'd highly suggest something or somewhere you could meet in person safely. 

And remember do what feels comfortable and do only what makes you happy and safe. Also don't forget if you can't love yourself, how the hell are you gunna love somebody else (can I get a Amen.)

Love

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xo